What Women Leaders Want by Libby Gill

What Women Leaders Want
Don’t kid yourself – women’s leadership is more about ‘walking through’ than ‘leaning in.’ 

In 2000 — the same year I founded my executive coaching and consulting firm —
a movie called What Women Want premiered. It starred Mel Gibson as a misogynistic ad
exec who develops the ability to read women’s minds after getting zapped by a hairdryer.
Bombarded by female voices he’s apparently hearing for the first time (albeit
telepathically), he is desperate for someone to just tell him what women want.

 
Today, it seems like corporate America is in pretty much the same boat. Not only
about the what, but also about the how. Sheryl Sandberg, the storied COO of Facebook,
tells us to “lean in.” Former State Department policy planning director Anne-Marie
Slaughter states “women still can’t have it all.” And Rosa Brooks, Georgetown University
law professor, contends that women should cut themselves a break and “recline.”

 
Though Gibson’s What Women Want character was crafting a female-friendly
sneaker campaign in the film – alongside his confidence-bereft boss Helen Hunt – perhaps
he should have been working on the Burger King spot that compelled consumers to “have
it your way.” Because the only way I can see the workplace working for women is if we
figure out what we want as individuals and then demonstrate our value so definitively
that it’s impossible not to give it to us.

 
I’ve keynoted at many women’s leadership conferences including Kellogg’s,
Microsoft, and Safeway and while I secretly hope that the need for these types of forums
goes away someday, I don’t see that happening anytime soon. At least, not until we see
the number of women in leadership and management roles increase significantly.

 
Yet, while the number of women at the top hasn’t shifted much in the past two
decades, the corporate mindset has. Even in fields traditionally led by men (though often
staffed by women) like technology and manufacturing, doors are opening for us. And
while it’s a nice notion that simply leaning in could get us on the other side, it requires
more than that. It requires walking through. Forcefully. Graciously. And immediately.

 
Here are some strategies so you can stop banging your head against brick walls and start
walking through open doors:

 

Be so great at what you do it’s hard to turn you down. When you make it worth the
company’s time to support your needs, they’ll be a lot more inclined to help you create a
balance that works for you. It’s a two-way street and when you provide ongoing
excellence, you’re in the driver’s seat.

 
Invite the guys into the women’s leadership clubhouse. The sooner you bring men into
the process, the sooner we’ll all benefit. Request feedback so often that it becomes
routine. Ramp up your confidence and have the courage to share tough truths. And for
heaven’s sake, invite the guys to your women’s events.

 
Take a team approach. Research suggests that women leaders who advocate for their
teams – rather than themselves – are viewed far more positively in the workplace. You’ll
get much further saying “we” than “me.”

 
Recognize that plenty of men face the same issues as women. We haven’t cornered the
market on the need for work-life balance. Men may not vent as much as we do, but they
also struggle with challenges related to their children, aging parents, and health concerns.
Share your passions and plans with others. Once you decide what’s right for you, your
family (however you define it), and your future, have the courage to share your strategies
on how to get there. If there’s one thing that women want, it’s companions on the path to
leadership!

 

For more information on Libby, visit http://www.speakernow.com/espeakers/8428/Libby-Gill.html?topic=-1

Leave a Reply


social media linkssocial media linkssocial media links social media links