Do I Have To? by Kit Welchlin

Change, change, change. Are you tired of change? Rather not change? Sometimes you might not understand why “you” “must” change. You might not think you “should” change. You don’t believe you “have to” change. You say to yourself, “Do I have to?” You’re a classic.

I understand what you are saying. Sometimes nonstop change can be tiring. What might be adding to your disdain concerning change is your self-talk.

It is amazing how our psychological framing of change can have such an impact on how we accept change. Whenever we use negative phrases like I “must do,” or I “have to do” or I “should do,” it creates a negative attitude and a reluctant reaction to change. Trying to guilt ourselves into action is not very motivating.

If, however, we use positive phrases like I “want to,” or I “get to” or I “look forward to,” it creates and supports a positive attitude, and possibly a proactive response to change.

If we change our attitude, it will change our action. Try changing the framing, and you may start changing your ways.

Sometimes it’s not the changes that do us in; sometimes it’s the transition. Change tends to be physical. Transition tends to be psychological. If we can monitor our self-talk, catch the negative tone, and instead frame our comments in a positive way, we will be recognized as a key employee that can help move change along.

Watch Kit’s video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hk9iseVMsgg&feature=youtu.be

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